What if we don’t want children?
What if we are having problems conceiving?
Maybe I can’t have children!
What if we can’t afford children right now?
What if I have been having a number of miscarriages?
Maybe we just lost a baby!
What if…just what if?
It was common culture practice for the aunties to ask newly weds if there is a problem once they are taking to long to announce that they are pregnant. In some cultures this question would be asked to the woman and the husband’s younger brother will be called in if there was a ‘problem’ with the husband and he would sort out the problem. It is said that sometimes the brother would never know that the children are not his. This was also done to protect the man’s ego (who wants to destroy a man’s ego right). So he would keep his ego, but for life raise children that are actually not his. At the same time this was also because in a way they blamed the woman for not having children. Having sexual intercourse with the husband’s brother would then be a way to prove that she is not the problem. We can all guess what would happen if she failed to get pregnant of the brother in law…the aunties would encourage the husband to get another wife because this one was not ‘functioning’. IN this day and age, everyone has become the aunties and people should just stop asking couples and singles when they will have children.
First you are questioned on when you will get married, then when/if you do – the question on children comes. After you have one, then you are being questioned about when you will have another one. Well, even if you do not get married you are still asked when you will have a child and constantly reminded of how the biological clock is ticking. Enough with the questions though, can we just ask people how they are doing but most importantly if they are happy. Some are happy with no children. Some want to adopt and not necessarily have any of their own. Some are not ready. Okay, how about we just stay out of it, that would work out great for everyone.
10 variations of the question that should be banned
‘So when’s the baby coming along?’
‘Are we going to hear the pitter patter of tiny feet any time soon?’
‘Oooh, it’ll be babies next!’ ‘So, have you got any good news for us yet?’
‘You better start saving for nappies, right?’
‘I can’t wait for the grandchild to come along’
‘You’ll be excited to start a family now!’
‘Have you talked baby names yet?’
‘Are you trying for a baby yet?’
‘So, I take it you’ve stopped having sex with condoms now you’re married?’
Okay, the last one is sarcastic – but that might as well be what you ask seeing as any form of the question is blunt and completely personal. – Metro UK
Munhukadzi 
The last question😂
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